If you could comfort one person right now, who would it be?

Oh my dearest. I wish I could comfort YOU right now, I wish I could bombard you with the best suggestions …

In difficult moments like this one, try to be the strong shoulder your Mother needs right now, try not to show her that she’s making you crazy, try to be strong. Be STRONG, be PRESENT, just BE.

May the force be on both your sides.
Diana

Oh my dearest. I wish I could comfort YOU right now, I wish I could bombard you with the best suggestions …

In difficult moments like this one, try to be the strong shoulder your Mother needs right now, try not to show her that she’s making you crazy, try to be strong. Be STRONG, be PRESENT, just BE.

May the force be on both your sides.
Diana

Hi
I am really sorry to hear about your mom - it must be very hard for both of you.
Much love x

I breathe peace for you and your mom, sweetie; for comfort, strength, and the Highest Good.

When you're feeling stressed or are looking for answers, take time for yourself to go within. The answers you seek are there.

Love is with you always.

Hey Earthdweller….firstly, you need to clarify what you mean by crazy…as in…”it makes me crazy”..do you mean you get scared too,  or are you irritated or do you feel overwhelmed or what?

And what do you mean by “it”?  ..what is it makes you crazt; your mother's fear or the chronicness of her condition or something else?

One thing I have always personally  found useful in these sorts of situations…my mother waged a 13 year battle with skin cancer, for example..is to clarify just what is going on with me by being more accurate in the way I experience a situation…I could make suggestions for any of the permutations of 'it' and 'crazy' that happens to you…and you will need to look after yourself in order to effectively comfort your mother, if that's what you want to do…feel free to drop me a line or continue this thread…Jon xx

Hi Shannon -

I saw your blog and wanted to respond -

First of all, I know how hard this must be for you as well - I know how I felt when I found out that my beloved grandmother's breast cancer metastasized…it is such a feeling of fear and loss of control and helplessness, and, well, just about everything that we as humans try to avoid feeling…

My suggestion for you would be to get your mother a few books that would be helpful - one that I gave my grandmother (and that absolutely helped her to win her first battle with cancer) was “The Power of the Subconscious Mind”  - he has great scripts in there about how to really create health and wellness - and it is very empowering for the person who has the cancer to feel some sense of mental control over the disease.

Another is Louise Hay's “You can heal your life” - a terrific book, for the same reasons above - and because she herself healed of cancer with her suggestions…

In addition, help remind your mom of who she is as a human and as a spirit - which is very much separate from the disease that she is manifesting. To that end - do things with your mom that are things that she loves -and that will help her to stay present in the moment and to connect with joy and love (and all that is very healing!!!). For instance, if you mom loves silly movies, rent a bunch starring her favorite actors and actresses, and make is a “girl's movie night” - complete with popcorn and soda and all her favorite candy.

If she likes pottery, maybe take her to one of those pottery painting places…

And, even on days when she might be feeling sick (from chemo or radiation, for instance), find small ways to help her - and you - connect with healing and love and joy. For instance, go out and cut some beautiful branches or grasses or flowers (if you are in a warm enough climate) and arrange them in her favorite vase, placing the whole arrangement right next to her bed. Find out what scents remind her of happiness and healing, and buy some aromatherapy oils in those scents - then use the oils on her sheets, lamps, and spray in the air, saying an affirmation aloud, such as “I am spraying healing and light into the room.” (It's really easy to make your own aromatherapy spray, simply by filling an empty spray bottle with water and about 20 drops of aromatherapy oil…)

Anyway, I am around if you need help and support in the meantime - I hope that some of this helps you and your mom during this challenging time…